I'd inform friends, family, and colleagues that I was looking for quantity—and rely on them to vet the quality (hence Ben, the "ironic" Trump advocate).And I'd go out with any non-psychopath who asked in person. An Ivy Leaguer with a passing resemblance to Sean Avery, Eric arrives 25 minutes late with a gym bag and a hard-to- follow story about a broken watch.Or I date perfectly nice boys for too long simply because there isn't anything exactly wrong with them. If a date goes well on Friday night, I'll spend the weekend pondering how long the morning commute from his place might take, or contemplating where, say, my dresser will fit in his apartment.When a colleague told me about Volume Dating—a term her ex-husband coined to mean, essentially, cramming many dates into a short period of time to widen the suitor pool and relieve the pressure on the one big intrigue—it gave me pause.
More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.
Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).
Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.
Does he have a load of reasons why you can’t go to his place?
“My roommates are pigs.” “I never have time to clean it up.” “Your place is so much nicer.