I was intrigued by her situation and thrilled to have a single mother of sons to connect with and possibly build a friendship with.As it turned out, this woman and I were opposites in every way.What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday!I was thirty-nine years old when my husband died unexpectedly in his sleep. He was my love, my rock, a crucial part of my life and our children’s future, and in an instant, he was gone.A few weeks after his death, I received a letter from my insurance company.I buried this idea along with the letter knowing I would re-enter the dating scene in my own time. I was by myself at the grocery store and I looked up to find a man watching me with an interested look in his eye. I called him and asked him what he thought about me dating. I’m so happy you are considering it.” Her response wasn’t what I expected, but from both her and my father-in-law’s answers I felt better about moving forward.To my surprise, I found myself feeling attracted to him. This innocent exchange of glances made me uncomfortable, but only in a sense that I realized I was no longer a married woman but an available single one. First, I needed to be willing to discuss dating with people who I was close to. He said genuinely that he wanted me to be happy and that he knew Mark would want me to be happy too. I wasn’t sure what she would say and was shocked when she didn’t say anything. Second, I needed to know that I wouldn’t be dating to just fill a void. However I had met Mark online and thought it was a good place to start. It felt a little uncomfortable to be searching for a ‘new’ man after being with one man for ten years.
A few years back a woman and her three sons moved next door to me.She had two teenage sons who came and went as they pleased.Her younger son was left to fend for himself while his mother worked and then went out in the evenings.For example, three simple ideas for creating dating opportunities include smiling genuinely, approaching men first and learning the art of flirting.His assessment requires a fundamental shift in thinking – women must not be afraid to make the first move!