Messaging a guy on a dating site

Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.You may be on his Favorites list but he hasn’t had the opportunity to contact you yet.

We are extremely happy and look forward to a very happy future, thanks so much smooch, your site has made my life complete and I will be forever grateful to the site.

I joined in September 2009, simply to meet someone special.

After I spotted David's profile on the site, I decided to get in contact.

There is nothing inherent about initiating an email conversation that screams out “desperate”. Where most women screw up that first email contact is by taking one of two approaches: 1) telling him how great he is, or 2) explaining why you’re great and why he should write back to you. Is there something particularly energizing in the phrase, “I think we have a lot in common”?

Is it really all that intriguing when he explains why he’s a good partner for you, even though you haven’t met?

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