They, too, have been in relationships (I’m talking boyfriend–girlfriend official status) that ended because he told her he wasn’t ready. He cared for her very much but couldn’t match her feelings. And so many girls I know have been dumped because their boyfriend wasn’t ready. There does come a time when a guy needs to get on the same page or else end things, but before you require that of him, be sure to ask yourself the hard question, “Do I love him as he is, with the emotional pace he brings, or do I really just want him to fit in to my romantic timeline because it’s what I want right now? Regardless if it’s him or if it’s you, if your guy is making no effort to get on the same page as you, don’t hang around.
” I think both men and women can get caught up in the expected timeline rather than focusing on what is right for the relationship. In fact, I got caught up in that during my first serious relationship—thinking I was really ready to take next steps with my then-boyfriend by embarking on a cross-country relationship with him, even though he made it clear he wasn’t ready for that. But what about men who decide they’re just not “at the same level” as you and don’t seem to have a plan for getting on the same level? Paul: Ah, well now we are getting to “unreadiness” reason number two: “I’m just not that into you, but I don’t want to hurt your feelings.” If it feels as though the guy you are dating is not taking initiative to move the relationship forward, and he offers “I’m not ready” as an explanation, then he either does not want to be in a relationship or is not sure if he does. Telling a woman you are just not into it is hard, and some guys like to chalk it up to unreadiness to make it easier on you . If a man wants to be emotionally and physically intimate, he needs to be ready to handle the commitment that comes with that. I think the most encouraging thing for a woman to do is to give him space.
I’ve written before about how important shared intentions are in a dating relationship.
And that’s because I’ve been in situations where it became all too clear, all too late, that my beau and I weren’t on the same page.
Because, Taylor, you’ve been linked to all of those dudes since 2010. I’m not her biggest fan, but I’m not trying to slut-shame her here.
We’ve taken the top 11 occurrences to help you decode what he’s REALLY saying to you. "I promise" (Only he doesn't come through) - If he consistently promises to do things, then doesn’t show up or call, put more stock in his actions instead of the excuse.Me: Say a man I am dating is not ready in the first way, meaning that he needs time to move at his own pace. Paul: There are a lot of things a woman can do to help a man who is not quite ready, but she will never be able to snap her fingers and declare “Be ready! I’m not saying she should ignore him or give him the kind of cold-shoulder action that “needing space” can sometimes imply.I mean let him take the initiative, and in the meantime, plan time for friends, family, and hobbies—pull your laser focus off of him for a while.I don’t care how many guys Taylor dates and neither should anyone else. Here’s why I was left so confused: what is dating to Taylor Swift?The article immediately made all of us here at the Gurl office wonder what dating means to Tay-Tay herself…